The Parent - The Child - The Time

3 years ago, I made a speech to a big crowd of parents. I said,

"When your child was just a baby and was taking every little step to learn to grip, crawl, stand and walk, parents always encouraged them not to afraid to fall and praised them for every little progress they have made. However, when the child started trying to experiment more and more stuff and eventually getting smarter and smarter, unconsciously, words of praise and encouragement were rarely used. This the stage at which parents started to see that an angel has turned monster and parents started to feel that controlling, scolding and suppressing could help to stop the child from behaving inappropriately. This is the time parents started using words like 'naughty', 'I ask police catch you', 'I cane you', 'No this no that' ... etc .... Parents are then badly blinded by the child's behaviour that they seems to have forgotten that the baby is growing up, yet the baby still needs love, praise and encouragement to better themselves. And not words like 'police', 'cane', 'boys' home' ' girls' home' ... etc etc ...

Everyone learn differently and everyone makes mistake. And yes, maybe some really needs the caning and institution at the end of the day. But one formula in common that all human beings can never deny which motivate our life ... HOPE, CARE AND CONCERN, GUIDANCE !

Neither An Angel or A Monster is born to be like that ... A Monster given a chance, with one's patience and nurturing, could do great things. Likewise, A Angel, who is left to rot, rots in no time.

So, my dear parents, continue your good work. With the simple intention you have harboured while bearing the child 9-10 months, continue with the kind intention. As such, any problem will be a happy problem and any bad behaviour will be an opportunity to better oneself - the parent and the child.

And and .. wait wait ... 3 years now I have one other point ...

Most of the time, people are not clear what they are disappointed at and frustrated at before they give up. A lot of time, parents don't realise that what they have given up is not the child but the time. They simply equate CHILD to TIME. Coz maybe, this is what the society is about now. Many things, issues, etc etc etc have become an Equation of Time. I guess this has made work a lot easier. However, to think that giving up on the child coz he/she can't meet up with expectation ON TIME??!!! It's kinda crazy lor. But maybe, maybe, ... this is just a ... ermm ... perhaps ... my own Hypothesis !!! Maybe ...